一个成熟的爱情

一个成熟的爱情...

有一位心理学家曾写过，一个成熟称得上真爱的恋情必须经过四个阶段，那就是：

- 共存(Codependent)
- 反依赖(Counterdependent)
- 独立(Independent)
- 共生(Interdependent)

第一个阶段：共存

这是热恋期间，情人不论何时何地总希望能黏在一起。

第二个阶段：反依赖

等到情感稳定后，至少会有一方想要有多一点自己的时间做自己想做的事，这时另一方就会感到被冷落。

第三个阶段：独立

这是第二个阶段的延续，要求更多独立自主的时间。

第四个阶段：共生

这时新的相处之道已经成形，你的他/她已经成为你最亲的人。你们在一起相互扶持，一起开创属于你们自己的人
生。你们在一起不会互相牵绊，而会互相成长。

但是，大部分的人都通过不了第二和第三阶段，而选择分手，这是非常可惜的。

很多事只要好好沟通都会没事的，不要耍个性，不要想太多，要互相信任，这样，第二和第三阶段的时间就会缩短。

和所爱的人相遇相恋是非常不容易的，不要轻言放弃。

两人相聚是因为有缘，相知是因为有心，真的得好好珍惜这福分。希望能给大家一些启示和领悟，并惜缘。

我们会渐渐变成我们所爱的人。你和他本来没有相同之处，外表不相像，性格也南辕北撤，一旦爱上了，年深日久，你会惊讶你的眼睛有点像他的眼睛，他的微笑也有点像你的微笑。你们走路的步伐也有点相似，说话的语气也越来越相像。原来我们会变成我们所爱的人。

你本来喜欢脚踏实地的人，而他一向比较轻佻，但你们爱上了，他竟会不知不觉变成一个老实人，这个改变，连他自己也不曾察觉。他本来喜欢活泼的女孩，却爱上拘谨的你，这些日子，你竟会越来越活泼，你差点认不出自己。我们会逐渐变成对方理想中的人，这种改变绝对不是刻意的。两个人越爱得长久，气质也越来越相近。
你曾经以为他不是你梦寐以求的那种类型，然而，有一天，你会惊讶的发现，他已经变成你喜欢的那种类型，你不必再到处寻觅，他就是你要找的人。深深爱着一个人的时候，你原来真的会一点一点的失去自己，为什么你还会觉得快乐呢？大概是因为你在失去的时候，你把他的气质和微笑都赚回来了。

其实幸福很单纯，所以要很单纯的人才容易获得。

真爱--就是不要轻言放弃。

PTPTN ah!!!

Stupid you!! you are blocking me to apply PTPTN!!! FAN TONG!!!

I'm not purposely blame on you all, but you all really 饭桶!!!!

the result supposed to be come out at last week,

but don't know what the fuxk reason delay till now also haven't come out yet.

I'm damn angry about it, Md!!

I can't apply for PTPTN now, yet I haven't register for my course...

what can I do is...NOTHING!!! I can do nothing!!!

" that mean now I can do nothing la..?"

"DEFINITELY" answer from the stupid officer...

What the... @#$%^&*&^%$#$%^^%$#.....

你奶奶的...

放工吃饭你就准时...吃kuih啦！！！

because of this, I can't sleep well at night...nightmare...

if...if i get fail again...??? T.T

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NIKON D5000

thanks my dearest brother, he bought for me... emuakz~^^

I love it, thank you so much^^

( I promise, I won't tell your wife, don't worry ) =P

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因为信任选择离开

因为喜欢而在一起

真的很荒谬

你永远不知道的痛

gina

...........

不要得寸进尺了，接受吧

我能说什么，我真的不知道了。
不要得寸进尺，我奢望太多了吗？
我不想忍住了，真的很辛苦，我想毫不顾虑地放声大哭...
可是我办不到，因为自己心里知道，这么做，没有用...
现在说什么都没用，怪自己吧,为什么没有好好用工...
后悔有屁用，没有人会同情你...
呼吸都在痛,不是失恋的痛，这是痛苦的痛...

后悔了吗?告诉我... 我接受的到的.
这不算什么，没有什么比我学业更重要了...
居然放不下了，就不要放手...
我只不过是人生中的一个过客...没有什么大不了的...

接受是我唯一的选择...我很清楚知道

worried about...

Anyone can understand my worried? what I'm worried about?definately my result!!!

I wish I could pass... I don't know when is the date that the result come out. Ask the stupid officer, she just simply told me, 'check online...' , MD!! I want to ask for the date not the result, no matter how many time I ask for it, she always answer me the same. Damn you!!! Do you know that it's very jittered me?!! @@ my buddha~~T.T

Taken when having lunch at Jusco after my exam.

Went Mid Valley today, with classmate, but I'm not the actual student in the class, just follow.

They went for took some picture for their assignment.

The most pretty gal in FCM...LOL~ cover our face

Oh camera camera~~I'm crazy for you... you drive me crazy~~

Plan to buy a camera, not a simply small digital camera but macro camera. Looking forward to Nikon D5000... I wish to have it. Actually already booking for it, but 2sis suddenly hold me down, she said that she wanna do for the survey first, tomorrow only give me an answer... mami ah~

Nice it's? love it...^^

The souvenir from Michelle... they are from Thailand... thanks ya~^^

Mami come back from Singapore in this week, yeah~^^

emuakz~

good night~^^

XD

gina

Compo post-holiday

Compo post for my last sem holiday

sorry for late. I'm damn lazy + moody...
here some picture that I've took... for the whole holiday(2 week)
some are copy from Michelle.(copyright from Michelle) LOL~

Look out point at Cheras there~ I called it as 'Nga Nga Shan'

A big surprise for Michelle, celabrate her birthday after finish the final exam~

Oopps.. ying yan's relative~ I was surprised we can meet you there...lol~

nice view when night...

someone promise me that will celebrate my birthday at here before...ignore and forgot about it...hoho

Six of us~^^

We stay at hotel that night~^^

2nd day~

We went to Sunway Lagoon^^

Stupid me, I thought the Sunway Lagoon open on 9am, so we woke u early and go early to be the first customer!!hoho~~~ unfortunately...they open on 11am =.= what the...

we have fun inside the Sunway Pyramid... took a lot photo...kakaka~
wait untill 11am... straight to our destination~ Sunway Lagoon~we are coming!!!yohoo~~

the pass~ it's used for for all park~ orange color one~^^

after swim, we are all wet =P

the view from the hanging bridge down to the swim area... it's high! gyk scared about it~haha~

A damn thing happen~ we were trapped in the hanging bridge, not only us, the foreigners also~

so we took some picture during waiting for rescue~hahah~~

tired face but still want to act...=.=

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I went to Johor Bahru also in the holiday.^^ Stay at Yan's house~ Michelle along too~^^
I fall in love with Yan's father's tuition centre's student, really cute... all tiny tiny one..
Before I went JB, Yan and Gyk stay at my house and then I follow them went back to their hometown next morning~ I took them to my hometown famous hot spring for enjoy the spa~haha~ then the something damn happened...my lip, down lip, get stung by the stupid bug! Argh!!! then my down lip became swell, half Angelina Jolie~Lol~ it's damn scary man... trust me, you will keep laughing when you see me in that time. Really felt want to commit suicide in that time.T.T

luckily, it's detumescence after one day... I keep wearing mask to cover it.

Yan & Gina~ on the way to JB~^^

Yan's is the driver for this car- Unser~cool~

nice drinks^^

She is Yan's father's tuition centre's student, only 8 years old. her face look like MuLan~it's?haha~ really cute^^

Guess what is this?

This is an air-raid shelter when the war crime. Really? I also don't know~

Ok...that's all~^^bye

XOXO

=gina=

tagged by Miss Silvia

Tagged by Miss Silvia~

。。。。個 人 題 - 10 題。。。。
01 你叫什么：Lee Shi Min
02 你的綽號：ah miao.gina++
03 你的血型：B+
04 你的星座：Libra
05 你是男還是女：Female
06 你幾歲：19（2009）
07 你住哪裡：Malaysia
08 你現在的學校 ：MMU
09 你有沒有手機 ：yes~
10 承上，那是多少：free~

。。。。朋 友 題 - 10 題。。。。
11 你最要好的朋友（限１個）：Christina Yew
12 你最討厭的人（限１個）：Don't know yet...

。。。。 情 題 - 10 題。。。。
21 你有沒有喜歡的人： sure~
23 如果没有，你希望什麼時候有另一半：got la~cheh~
24 到目前為止，你跟多少人告白過：Not even one!!
25 到目前為止，你被多少人告白過：countable,but forgot...
26 到目前為止，你交過多少個男／女朋友：countable...
27 你現在有另一半嗎: No
28 你最好的同性朋友跟你告白你會怎樣：So?
29 你初戀情人突然跟你告白你會接受嗎 ：Impossible!
30 你為什麼會喜歡你現在喜歡的人：No comment...
31 你和另一半牽手過嗎：sure la~walao~
32 你的另一半抱或親過嗎: ada lah...
33 你跟異性牽手過嗎：of course la...
34 是誰，你們什麼關係：father and daughter
35 現在有人在追你嗎：got gua...

。。。。混 合 題 - 10 題。。。。
36 如果有天，好朋友離你而去，你會怎樣： erm,sad...
37 如果有天，好朋友背叛你，你會：sediri stupid lo~
38 如果有天，好朋友對你喜新厭舊了，你會：she stupid lo~
39 如果你很受不了你的父母，你會離家出走嗎：no!!
40 你上課認真嗎 ：haha...impossible...
41 你功課好不好：of course... no la~
42 你开电腦都在幹麻：MSN,blogging,watching drama...++
43 你的即时通有多少个同性: huh??!!what is this?
44 你的即時通裡有多少個異性：???!!!

。。。。兇 手 題 - 10 題。。。。
45 傳給你這份問卷的人是誰：Silvia
46 这個人對你好不好：erm....no comment
47 這個人是你的誰：friend's sister...friend too...
48 你有喜歡過這個人嗎：huh?gal wor...@@
49 你們認識多久了:：erm... not sure leh~
50 這個人是怎樣的人：a cute gal...^^
51 這個人正／帥嗎：cute^^
52 這個人跟你有沒有在一起过：在一起过? shopping lo~
53 萬一你喜歡這個人，你會怎麼办：=.=

。。。。 聯 想 題 - 10 題。。。。
56 說到正妹你會想到誰：angelababy~
57 說到帥哥你會想到誰：daniel~
58 說到憨你會想到誰：myself...
59 說到痴你會想到誰：myself...
60 說到暗戀你會想到誰：stupid...
61 說到出去玩你會想到誰：classmate...
62 說到聰明鬼你會想到誰：denny...
63 說到傻子你會想到誰: yan...
64 說到笑點低你會想到誰 : christina
65 說到愛笑你會想到誰 : christina

。。。。學 校 題 - 11 題。。。。
66 你的班導是誰：huH?? don't know...
67 你的座位是第幾排第幾個：cincai la~
68 你最喜歡的老師是誰：primary school teacher.Miss.Yao...
70 你的英文好嗎：shit!!!
71 你的體育好嗎：ok gua...
72 你的数学好么：oh my buddha~
73 你喜不喜歡你的校長：no comment
74 你的學校好看嗎：ok la~so so lo~
75 你的班級是：FCM gua...
76 你的班級在幾樓：tak tentu lah~


Tag Tag Tag la~
if you want to tag by me...hohoho~~~

tangly

because of something...someone angry with me...
because of something... I miss you so...

because of something...I hate you...

because of something...

I'm lying in here in a state of collapse...
feel so helpless now...

crying without tear

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change change change!!!
change my banner, put my picture, show my tongue!! oOu~~

love it~^^

taken after swim in this morning =P

erm... I will delete the chat box beside...

anything please leave me a comment, I will reply you as soon as possible^^

nothing... just think that it will be an eyesore for me...

so delete it!

Oh ya...

2.33am now... good night^^

emuak~

*gina*

Argh!!!! virus!!!

Argh!!!!!!!
my stupid laptop get virus!!! can't open the window at all!!!
help!!!!!!!!!!!!!
need to reformat again, oh my buddha~
lost all my data inside. damn it!!!
waiting Cy format for me. thanks a lot.^^

update++

hmm...update update~

long time didn't log in to my blog,nearly forgot this blog...=P

anywhere... update now...

a very fast past for my sem break for last sem,the last sem break for foundation year.

and a sad case, I, LEE SHI MIN, failed the Media Culture for finals.

really #$%^&.... all my fault! stupid!!! aiz...

fine... then what to do is... take the supp...

finished my sup today... actually quite a lot fail for this subject.

I wish i can pass... please...

my student ID =P

hmmm....

shifting house... new house... move out from hostel...

Cyberia...condo...

a lot of thing haven't settle yet, the living room was chaotic.

post the scary pic soon...

to be continue....

sorry

A very lazy mood when typing...
At my friend home now...online
1st... I'm sorry to my friends... I'm not purposely one
sorry for my selfishness
wish you all have a nice day~
I think something will happen... I can't expect the sequel

lazy to post up the trip to sunway,haiz...
I will post up when I'm free^^



moody blogging
*gina*